real friend vs true friend

Every person has friends. We call them depending on how we value them. Some, call their friends as when they started as friends, or how long they've been friends...and some...depends on how far they went through. But for me, I only have two friends to call, one is real friend and another as a true friend. Do you know the difference? I'm afraid not. I'm sure, you used to call your friends as best friend, bezbudz, or close friend... I did the same. But since i've met a lot of people and learned from them, I came up with only two.

Let's start with a real friend. The name sounds cool. Coz its "REAL". But what is it as a real friend? Before I start, I just want to say that right now, i'm thinking of the people I have met and treated as friend as I make this missive and they're so many of them. Anyway, a real frined is someone who is very true to himself. As in, what you see is what you get from this type of friend. He/she could be a straight forward one, knows when to be mean, knows when to mess around, use to play or joke a round. This person is so good to be with because he/she is music listener, a movie person where you can ask and learn a lot. You will be good friends as long as no one is making a mistake. Since this person is a straight forward, a bit perfectionist, you don't want to mess around with.

A real friend, knows when to comfort you. Is like a mirror, that when you do nice things, will certainly do the same without thinking twice. He/she could be generous aspossible as you have never expected, he/she will treat like brother or a sister. You will find and make quality time with each other even telling secrets.

I quoted them as "REAL" friend/s because they are really real. Even things that you don't expect from them shows up and always.

On the other hand, a "TRUE" friend stands on the same way and weight as how a "REAL" friend is. You may not see any difference from the two but let me reveal it for you. A true friend, like a real friend is always there for you. You will feel him/her even without their physical presence. Things that you don't expect them to do for you still happens like a real friend can do. They will love you for who you are, treat you with respect not because of what you have or how you look but because of what you are to them and that is that you're important. A TRUE is never greedy nor envy because he/she knows that they have you but not that they will have what you have. True friends are open minded, you don't need to explain, they will understand you.

By the way, haven't you thought all things I've mentioned are their good images? Now here's the comparison part.

Remember when I said a REAL friend could be straight forward? Yes they are and they will say anything to you bad or good. The worst thing is, they will even stab you at you're back. REAL friends, for as long as you're good to them, getting what they want from you (not necessarily material things) like a favor, or they only want to see what they want to see from you, you will stay friends. No matter how hard you give your best, no matter how painful you will get trhough just to prove yourself how worthy your friendship to them, once they found out there's something wrong with you, its the end of your days. They won't see you as who you are like the first day they've met you. They won't even appreciate all the things you did for them and the things you are doing as you move on to your life...cz for them, you are nothing. They won't see your sacrifices and sorrows, they would even laugh at you, laugh at your mistakes, making rumors out of your kindness and ignorance. You thought that you are good enough for their friendship's worth but you're wrong. They are what we call our "REAL FRIENDS" real till the end.

And here's a good cut for our dear "TRUE FRIENDS". They are fantastic. I can say, they are true gifts from God. They're better than a lover. A true friend will completely accept you for what you are and who you are. A person who won't and will never treat you base on your mistakes, based on you past. They will still recognize you not on what you cannot do but on the things you can do. A true friend knows how to love, because no matter how many times you left them, mock at him/her/them, no matter how childish you are, no matter how many times you committed mistake, no matter how worst you are, they won't and will never leave. They can't take to see you in misery, they won't even take a word that will hurt your feelings. True friend/s know/s how to appreciate, and knows to give back the glory. A TRUE FRIEND doesn't know how to stab you at your back, or even think how bad you are, thus, they are excited to tell their other friends or love ones how good and respectful you are. Cz there's no room for bad things about you for them.

A true friend knows how to feel jealous. They play like a child sometimes or even most of the time. They also mess around and they could make you feel bad or even hurt you as well. But they know how to apologize. and even if they won't say the word, you will see through their actions how sorry they are. With your true friend, you will go through pain as well, arguments, even split ups.. but since he/she is a true friend, he/she can't resist you. He/she can't resist of not seeing you or communicating with you. in the end, you will still be in good terms. and they can do that because they love you.

This is what a "TRUE FRIEND" is. and they are not a true friend till the end, because for them, there's no end for friendship.

These are the friends I've found. Until now, They're existing. In life, you can have as much friends as you want. There are no laws, or teachings that stopping you from collecting and gaining friends. It's even a good picture if you are a friendsly type of person. You can even choose to have one, many or even no one at all.

In my life, as I move on, I kept to myself this....I would rather have a one true friend that I can grow old with than to have countless friends but can't be true to me.

I can't tell to myself what kind of a friend am I...cz that will depend on how my friends see me as their friend.

and just to ask,



what type of a friend you are, a real friend...or a true friend?